Wednesday, 4 September 2019
Greeting Etiquette - an advisory letter
Dear Insensitive Person,
When meeting me for the first time, please do not insult me
by asking whether I drive and how do I drive a car
when it is not relevant to the general conversation
(that is not discussing cars or transportation etc.)
Why it would be anyone else's business is a mystery to me.
These questions reveal your ableist ideas and expectations
that wheelchair users are 'the other' and,
either cannot drive
or are not capable of driving
(or perhaps shouldn't be driving (?)),
unlike every other holder of a driver's licence
of which I am one.
For the record, the answer is:
I turn the key in the ignition and just go.
Like everyone else.
(Except perhaps for those whose modern cars
have push buttons or other ways to start.)
You are just another example of your curiosity overtaking your manners.
It's time to check your values, unconscious biases and prejudices.
Check your manners please.
Do it today.
in disappointment and disrespect,